Programmed frustration: love these days...

There is such a theory: "Love lives for three years. In the first year of married life the couple buys furniture, for the second year they rearrange it, and on the third they divide among themselves. "

This hypothesis was put forward to the whole world by the French writer Frederic Begbeder at the end of the last century. Is it possible to trust her or is it still a personal conclusion of the prose writer? Is short-term love in our time relevant?

The theory of Frederick Begbeder is based on the fact that a feeling of love is associated with hormones - dopamine. And when the brain normalizes, it returns to its normal rhythm, and the hormone stops stimulating the partners' dependence on each other. After a certain period, the emotional dependence disappears.

There are people who are afraid to love, they are confident that in a while their relationship will collapse, so they deliberately go to the gap. Thus, it turns out that love is a battle that a person has already lost in advance.

Today, the problem of rallies is gaining a huge turn. Couples break up because of various reasons: pressure from the outside, financial difficulties or simply "cooled feelings". It is difficult to imagine that four hundred years ago the process of separation was carried out only through higher officials and was so complex that it was easier to stay together. Yes, and "oblique" views on women who started a new relationship, forced to think several times before breaking up.

There is an opinion that love over time transforms into friendship and habit. But, do you really cease to love your child or your parents over the years? So how can you stop loving a person who occupies a certain place in your life and fills it with meaning?

According to statistics, 60% of couples, after 10 years of joint marriage, argue that their relationship is more like friendship than love.

Probably, do not try to explain everything from a scientific point of view. Contrary to scientific evidence obtained in laboratories, love has no boundaries and time frames. It is infinite, like the ocean and eternal, like air. If you love, and not just feel sexual attraction, then love will live just as much as you live. After all, love lives in our hearts.